Why I’ll Never Give Another Personal Interview

Why I’ll never give another personal interview again

Well, that might be overstating it but today, I’m resolute. I’ll never reveal such personal information about myself and my family again. Let me rewind a little Voyeurs and give you some perspective….

A few weeks back I gave a pretty personal interview to Alysha Stirling of student web publication, Fashion North.  We spent three hours chatting over coffee in my second home, the Crowne Plaza Hotel in Newcastle.  Alysha is a student reading Fashion Journalism at Sunderland University and was pleasant, friendly & told me how she had followed my career and held me in high regard.  So far so good.

Now I accept full responsibility for letting down my guard and sharing details about my family when you all know that’s something that I don’t do.  I’m fiercely protective of both Bo and Plankton.  I keep them where they want to be kept which is at home, watching Top Gear and there’s a very good reason for that, it’s to protect my disabled son.

I liked Alysha. I really did. She came armed with pages and pages of questions and we talked at length about a variety of subjects, my career, and how I gave up a senior management position within the NHS after discovering the extent of my son’s multiple disabilities and how this would go on to affect his education and ultimately our lives as a family unit.  I felt relaxed enough to talk with her about this subject and I take responsibility for making myself vulnerable.

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What I didn’t expect however, was the personal attack from a Senior Lecturer at Sunderland University.  Yes, it’s someone I’m familiar with, and yes, it’s someone who for reasons I’m not entirely sure of, seems to have a real problem with me, but this is business, not a playground.  Now I’ve been in this business for a little while now, this ain’t my first rodeo. I’m well aware of the bitchiness that goes with this role.  The blogging community can be tricky, people seem to believe that they’re fighting for work and that their peers are competition which must be eliminated.  That’s just not true; we’re all out there working as hard as each other.  We all have a different audience, reach and serve a different demographic and on paper we should all be able to adapt and get on, which a lot of us do.  Business is about compromise, not fighting to get your own way or force your opinions on to others.

Anyway, I digress.  The Fashion North piece was published and shared as with anything else, and it discussed my role within the fashion industry as a single, self made entity.  There were specific highlights picked out by Alysha from our three hour conversation and compacted into a short 1400 word article, obviously there was some generalising, I guess to fit it into the paramenters allowed.  Within 48 short hours, all traces of the article were removed and I had vanished from the website as quickly as I had arrived and was replaced with an article on another Blogger.

I contacted Alysha – whom I discovered had ‘unfriended’ me on FaceBook – Fashion North, and the University Fashion Programme Leader in that order, to try to find out what had happened, and hit a stonewall.  Completely ignored and unfollowed by of them until I eventually had a cold email from the Programme Leader to simply say that it couldn’t be discussed.  Ouch.

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After tweeting about my disappointment (I tried not to, I really did), I took a call from someone.  Let’s call them W. Blower.   W. Blower clued me up on what had actually happened behind the scenes, saying it was unfair for me to be treated like this without being given the opportunity to have a say on it.  Kudos dude, you’re absolutely right.

What’s shocked me about this most, was not just the absolute bullshit crap stories made up about me,  but the fact that people are stupid enough to be taken in by his horseshit without making a judgement for themselves based on things that they already know.

I felt it necessary to write this post because I was prevented from having a voice.  I’ve not been given the opportunity to exercise my right to an argument after being so spitefully shut down by an individual with an acute dislike for me.  I’ll be honest Voyeurs, I would have expected more professionalism from a large educational institution, the unfriending, the stonewalling, it all smacks of sixth grade.  In what other aspect of life are you shut down for requesting an answer?  None Voyeurs, the University didn’t believe that I deserved, or had the right to an answer.  That’s one of the awesome things about blogging; you have a voice, and a platform.

Sidebar: I’m fine with people not liking me, but when people have convinced themselves that you’re a monster based on their own destructive lies about you, that’s not ok.  Never put up with hate, or people who bully based on hate; it’s definitely not ok.

That Voyeurs, is why I’ll never give a personal interview again.  Except to you guys, right here, in my online home, because you’re all awesome.

Pixie xo

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  1. Paul Robinson
    December 3, 2016 / 2:59 am

    Strange way for them to carry on indeed . Loved the article and was touched by your insight into family unit , it’s a shame that modern day “media” can be used as a weapon against you , methinks a touch of jealousy is at hand . Pixie , your blogging etc is great and fun even to non fashion people , but can and agree your first priority is to protect Bo and young Plankton who by the way seems a terrific and talented youngster , Paul xxx

  2. December 3, 2016 / 8:41 am

    Christ what the hell was all that about?! I loved that interview. It was great. What a joke. Just keep doing you hun, haters gonna hate. xx

  3. December 3, 2016 / 10:13 am

    That must have been so annoying and hurtful after you opened up and trusted the person interviewing you. Hope you’re ok! x

  4. December 3, 2016 / 10:29 am

    No way! What a horrible thing to have to go through but you cane through stronger! You go girl!

    GeordieKisses ?

  5. December 5, 2016 / 11:15 pm

    Im saddened to hear about the way you’ve been treated Pixie! I remember commenting on your post after you’d given the interview and I was really looking forward to reading the finished article, sounds like it was a good read too! The lack of communication etc. all seems rather unprofessional so I hope someone has the decency to contact you and explain x

    • December 6, 2016 / 7:17 pm

      Thanks so much, I can’t see anyone doing anything about it, it’s a sad fact that there are some women out there who don’t like to see other women succeed & this particular woman is not a fan of Bloggers, me in particular! Shame really xx

      • December 6, 2016 / 10:58 pm

        Your welcome. That’s a shame as you deserve an explanation but you seem like the type of gal who won’t let this issue get to you or drain your positivity. Your right, it’s a sad fact that some women can be really quite cruel and nasty to other women who’ve make a success of themselves, it really is a shame xx

        • December 7, 2016 / 12:17 am

          Make sure you read tomorrow’s post, I’ve had so many emails & messages of support xx

  6. December 9, 2016 / 12:02 pm

    Maybe if you weren’t such a liar and a fantacist people would have more respect for you. You mislead people saying you have been to all of these shows when you absoutely haven’t. You need help

    • December 9, 2016 / 2:36 pm

      God damn it Lala, use a spellchecker or at least get Ms Jackson to check your shiz before you post

      • December 9, 2016 / 3:39 pm

        Did you enjoy Hadrian’s Tipi Lala? The hot cider is to die for xxx

    • December 10, 2016 / 12:02 am

      I think you’re the one needing help… Commenting under a fake name on a blog post? Get a grip.

  7. December 9, 2016 / 11:12 pm

    Lala…a term often used to describe somebody off their head, crazy if you wish. An apt pseudo name

    An IP address is not hard to locate…especially enjoying macaroons at said location of such IP address with photographic evidence. Don’t try and play games with THE QUEEN, she’s got a tribe of Voyeurs who can play any game you want to play, ten times better. Why? We’re stronger together.

    Why don’t you drop this sad act darling you’re a grown woman…real women build each other up instead of tearing each other down ?

    Sorry Ms Jackson she is for real. I’ve even seen her at said events. I’ve even taken multiple photos with this incredibly talented and successful lady at said events and guess what….no photoshop was used ??.

    The only person that needs help is you, a grown woman acting like a child, hate crimes and stalking are severe criminal activities and will be dealt with appropriately.

  8. December 10, 2016 / 12:03 am

    I love this post, I wish women would support each other more. There’s always the odd one that gives us a bad name! We’ve got your back, Pixie. Always X

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